Signs From Spirit

signs from spirit

One random night (in late winter / early spring) I was driving home in the pitch black darkness of night praying, asking Life about what direction to take on a rather important decision in my life.

I had been waffling on committing to a change because I wasn't certain (and frankly I wasn't wholeheartedly ready to wrap myself in the discomfort of it all) and yet as I drove I knew I had an inkling, a leaning towards making this change.

Suddenly outside, to the right, I see bright fireworks bursting in the dead of night.

Really? I thought it's not the 4th of July. 
Could those fireworks be for me?

"Of course not", I immediately thought, how self absorbed are you, Sarah?
This thought I quickly discarded because I know better. I know life speaks to me.

I'm not special, though. Life speaks to each of us.
You see, Life is a series of complex inter-weaving conversations serving both individuals and the collective simultaneously. 

Strangely simple and straight-forward yet subtle.

The trouble is, too often we aren't paying attention.
Or we aren't listening to the ways in which the Universe is speaking to us.
Or we argue with what we see and hear and sense.
Or we dissolve into self doubt.
Or we poo-poo overt signs / magic / synchronicities.
Or worse, we share this specialness with a wet blanket.

Sidebar: A wet blanket is the a-hole who comes along and tosses a sopping wet blanket on your rip-roaring flames of glory. We allllllllll know what I'm talking about.

Who knows what the "real" story behind the "random" fireworks is. 
What I know to be true is that in that moment, those fireworks were for me.

I got the confirmation, neon flashing "YES" from the Universe that making this change was in my best interest. I felt the truth in my body and soul.

And so without any more further internal discussion, I swiftly made the decision and committed to the new path. This was several (4?) years ago and it ended up being a really smart, good decision that brought new people and forms of support into my life.

Since then, I've weathered many more evolutions and changes.


Flash forward to more recent days...

I'm now just about 3 months into my new career path (which I shared about here). And the signs continue to affirm my life-altering decision.

Take for instance this little gem of a tale:

I'm on Day 3 of my corporate orientation suddenly feeling intimidated. My certainty and confidence I had collected along the way? Vaporized.

I headed out to lunch, got in my car and drove without a destination in mind (apparently I have lots of aha moments while driving!). 

Not so ironically I got lost (new city, broken GPS). 
And then I ended up here.
Smack dab in front of the office building I was looking for.

The crossroads marked by my own grandfathers name "Leroy".

It is he and his death that was the primary catalyst for the shift into Hospice work.

A coincidence?
Certainly not.

It was the ultimate confirmation. 

I was indeed in the right place at the right time.
I would settle in and find my way. I was meant to be here.

Thank you Universe.
Thank you.

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Life Transitions, On Letting Life Move Me + 2015/16 Updates

It sounds so insincere to say: Life is full of transitions, that in one way or another, we are all weathering some kind of change.
But the truth is, life stands still for no one. 

Constancy, stability, routine are always on borrowed time. They are merely illusions we have consented to partake in. Illusions that serve us and give us structure. 

2015 ended up being the best fiscal year within my business and without a moments hesitation I abandoned ship. In 2015, I blasted through my revenue goals during the first quarter, paid my independent contractors fair, competitive wages and spruced up my BYBAW branding kit (which I have since posted here on the blog for FREE).

But by mid year I knew I would be burying the bread n butter/web design aspect of my business for life had other plans for me.

On Letting Life Move Me

Last February I hopped in the car with my kids anxious to drop them off at grandma's house so I could have a "me" vacation. Hours before I set sail I got a phone call informing me that my grandfather was dying, that it was best to come say goodbye. To hurry, we didn't know how much time we had.

It turns out I had planned to be there for his final moments all along, I just didn't know it. I live 7 hours away and yet on the weekend that my grandfather died I was already en route. 

Those last 48 hours were surreal. I had never seen a dying person before. Certainly not someone I loved and admired. The spectrum of emotions I experienced was intense, yet I felt presently relaxed and open to the pain, the beauty and the finality of it all.

It had been many years since my grandfather and I had shared a "conversation", at least a "normal" one (he always was a man of very few words). And yet some of my most precious memories with him are from the last few years when his brilliant, sharp mind dissolved and dissipated into the cosmos. It was with him (and another grandmother who suffered from Alzheimers) that I truly experienced love, connection and Spirit beyond the regular confines of human interaction.

And so when I found myself privileged to be by his side amongst my mother, grandmother and Hospice nurse as we watched his chest rise and fall for the last time I knew my life was forever altered. Three generations of strong, independent, loving, fierce women surrounded him openly expressing love and sadness simultaneously. It was so beautiful and moving that it brings me to tears now.

Just as naturally as the wind gust settles, so did his breathe. One moment he was "alive", the next he was not. And that was that. I always imagined death being much more dramatic and chaotic. In reality most natural deaths are often calm, quiet and peaceful.

In the months following his passing I couldn't help but shake the burning desire to learn more about and find a way to be a part of Hospice. I was so genuinely moved by the compassion, kindness and dignity Hospice extended to my loved one, a complete stranger to them, that I wanted to be a part of it.

I dedicated several months to honoring and processing my own personal loss before making an important decision / life trajectory shift until I knew that the calling on the path was legit and not a product of a heightened spiritual experience.

Spirit Speaks

I allowed this desire to incubate in me.

Watching, listening and following the guidance of Spirit that came to me in nature, in my dreams and through various normal / "non"spiritual aspects of life. 

New friends opened my heart.
Dreams revealed to me my path and the areas that needed to expand and evolve within me so that I could safely and smartly enter into Hospice / a nontraditional care provider housed in and service provider to the traditional medical arena. 

Helping spirits and allies began affirming and teaching me before my feet landed in the sphere of Hospice. I followed up with action and dedication.
I threw myself into volunteering for the premiere local Hospice provider.
I devoured copious amounts of scholarly and respectable information of companioning the dying.
I even began a MSW thinking that would be the only path in.
But life had different plans for me.

In DEC 2015 I accepted a full-time position doing spiritual care for the Hospice organization I've been volunteering for. 

And so here we are. BAM! 

My theme FOr 2016: ssssssssculptor

I'm fully embracing the mystery of what will unfold here on www.sarahhnicotra.com but I know I'm not going anywhere. I plan to bring you my best writing, stories and resources for creating spiritual wellbeing.

Up next? I'll be synthesizing the building blocks for being the ultimate creator / sculptor of your life and reconnecting with your spiritual roots. 

I've received a few messages lately too asking if I'm available for readings and healings. Yes! You can still work with me 1 on 1 to create spiritual wellbeing here: Clear Companion sessions but there are a limited # of available sessions. Message for me for special requests.

Lastly, feel free to email me if you have specific questions and I'll use them for future blog topics! As always, thank you for being here.

xoxo

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The Place Where Magic Happens + 3 HELPFUL tools to stay in the zone

As you sit down to write the content or copy for your site undoubtably you will hit an akward brick wall of silence.

This drawing depicts the zone of magic where you want to stay when you begin writing the content for your site.

You can see that the sweet spot lie’s in a place where you harmonize all three know-ings. In order to ensure that you write and stay rooted in this place, I'm sharing 3 super straightforward yet surprisingly helpful tools.

Tool #1

Employ Your Filter

Remember the brand framework I shared with you?  If you've taken the time to go through this and the other insightful lessons my BYBAW series: laying the foundation for your online presence then you are already well underway to building an incredible filter for your business.

Want to know if you should include a page or piece of content on your website? Run it through your filter.

Want to know if you should create a specific offering? 
Run it through your filter.

Want to know what to charge for a service? Run it through your filter.

Want to know if you should include a specific part of your personal story in your about page? Run it through your filter.

By now I am certain you are saying, “Okay! Okay I get it. ‘Run it through my filter’ But how do I do that?!”

The great news is this doesn’t require you to learn anything new! 

You are already familiar with your filter, as it is essentially the basic framework I’ve already provided you.

Here it is again…

Your business filter gives you 4 legs to run each decision through.
To employ your filter ask yourself…

Is this in alignment with my natural way, my authentic strengths and in my zone of genius? Or am I off track?

Is this in alignment with what fuels my work and me? Or have I made a sacrifice here?

Is this valuable and helpful to my people? Or nay?

Is this on target for what I can deliver? Or beyond the scope?

You want to be able to answer YES to each of filter checkpoints because they are what provides continuity in your voice, your services and your brand experience.

Even in places of experimentation you’ll want to remain within the bounds of your filter, aka your framework. 

 

Tool #2

Café Chit Chat

Don’t underestimate the casual name of this tool. It can save your hiney over and over again.

The premise of this tool is this…

If you wouldn’t say it over coffee with a colleague, potential client or engaged friend don’t write it on your website.

I’ve noticed that when it comes to writing the content of our online space, we easily slip into a lofty, unrealistic conversation. This tool gives you the ability to envision yourself in a real conversation, saying exactly what you’ve written.

If it feels off, adjust it. Wherever it make you think or feel, “ooohhh, I’d never say that face-to-face with someone”… that is where you want to make revisions.

To invoke the cafe chit chat tool you’ll simple want to use your visionary skills to imagine you’re sitting in a pleasant café with an engaged pal and you enter into a conversation about your work.

This isn’t a selling conversation, just a real one about what you do. And the listener is genuinely curious. 

Imagine yourself literally saying what you’ve written and plan to put on the website.

How does it feel? Genuine and true? Rigid and put on? Personality-less? Or spot on?

Just observe and notice where you are right on target and what needs to be re-worked.

Keep this tool in your back pocket and whip it out each and every time you go to publish content on your website!

 

Tool #3

Client Goggles

Invest in either a real or metaphorical pair of goggles to wear and transform your perspective.

When you put on your client goggles you do so with the intention of abandoning your perspective and dedicating yourself to the perspective of your reader and ideal client.

You’ll want to read, hear, perceive and feel just as your people would.

How do they feel reading what you’ve written?

Are they engaged with your words?

Are they in your rhythm? 
What more are they wanting to know and to get from you?

Employing the client goggles give you an opportunity to de-personalized your website content and attachment to your creation.

After all you want others to respond to your creation, so you must be able to see it from their eyes.


> Tool Recap

# 1     Employ Your Filter
# 2     Café Chit Chat
# 3     Client Goggles

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